Tuesday, January 27, 2015

two girls learning and growing

It seems like just yesterday I was sitting on the carpeted floor with chubby thighed Layla watching her lay there and kick and coo.  She didn't want to crawl or roll over to her tummy.  Why would she want to do that?  Her momma did everything for her.  If there was a pink plastic toy out of her reach I would just hand it to her.  What was I thinking?

  I think as moms we want to make life easier for our children in the moment.  I wanted to hand her that pink horse rattle or her Ellie the elephant so she didn't have to struggle.  
Clearly, she is fine and me babying her didn't hurt her, but looking back I should have let her do more for herself.  How do you tell a new hard headed mom that?

And just like that, way too fast she turned three.  I still helped her, but then I was half way starting to get it.  I knew she needed to do things on her own to grow and become independent.  In my eyes she was 3 years old for many years.  When she was 4, she was still 3.  When she was 5 she still seemed 3 to me.  When she turned 6 I had an awakening.  She had a little mind of her own, as she always had, but I didn't want her to change.  She was so smart and had the cutest personality. She was reading and learning math facts.  I had to stop babying her and let her grow.  She met friends in kindergarten and wanted to have playdates.  What?  She was still three.  Kids don't do that at that age, I didn't want to let her go and grow.  But she was 6 and very social and super cute.  She needed that! 

No one tells you that about parenting.  I wish someone would shake me sometimes and MAKE me stop what I'm doing and look down into my life as if I'm looking into a snow globe.   You know what?  Now she isn't 3 or 6, she is 9!  How in the world is she 9 years old?  And she'll be 10 in July.  I read in a beauty pageant packet advertisement that was mailed to our home that 10 years old is considered pre-teen. 

 Excuse me?

She's washing her own hair.  She's painting her own nails even if it looks all crazy.  She can scramble eggs and make a mean bowl of mac n cheese.  I have to step away from my perfectionist mind set and let her become the amazing little girl she is ment to be. Gary and I had to let her fall off her bike to learn to ride it.  I now have to let her try to blow dry her hair even when she gets mad and begs me to do it for her.  "Please mom, you do it better.  I don't know how!!"  I can remind her to wash her face and brush her hair, but she has to do it.  I have to be quiet during homework so she can solve the problems on her own without me doing it for her.  She gets mad at me when I make her do her own stuff sometimes.  I get that awful mommy guilt that us moms feel when we least expect it.  I know deep down she isn't 3 anymore and I must let her grow and make mistakes.  After all, isn't that how we learn the best lessons?  

All this to say,  I have learned so much through having Layla and Hayden . A little girl and a little boy, each one growing and learning their own way.  No one tells you how to parent or what you'll feel.  I'm learning how to stop and step back to make sure I'm helping and letting their brains make decisions and choices that in the end help them grab their dreams and run with them. 

What have you learned about yourself after becoming a parent?

Monday, January 26, 2015

Marietta Diner

After we dropped the kids off at school this morning we decided to venture out and try a new breakfast place.

The food was absolutely amazing and the service was great too.  The owner came to our table to make sure our meal was good.  She was so nice and talked with multiple tables.  I think that is a big deal.  Owners and managers should show their faces and get to know their patrons!

The restaurant is in a town nearby called Marietta, which is also the name of the town we lived in in Ohio!  How funny right!?

My parents sent Gary a birthday gift card to a restaurant group that was featured on Diners Drive-Ins and Dives.  We LOVE that show and so Gary was thrilled to get to try one of the restaurants for breakfast.  We still have money left for another meal too!  Thank you mom and dad!

We ordered this little yummy cream cheese treats called blintzies.  We were not disappointed with anything we ordered and we know the kids will love this diner...we can't wait to take them there one day soon!

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Sunday Funday!

We ventured out today to explore more of our new state. 

We had high hopes of doing tons of camping while living in Ohio, but it just never happened.  Gary worked so hard and his boss wasn't a fan of him taking time off, so he worked a ton and our camper just sorta sat there.

That won't happen here!  We have a lake very close and today we found multiple campsites we fell in love with.  Just being near the lake got our family all happy and ready for springtime and summer.  We will be some camping crazies as soon as the weather turns warmer!

Once we got our camping plans mapped out we drove to one of our favorite sporting goods stores about 16 miles away.  Both kiddos got new tennis shoes and Layla got shorts for soccer.  Yes, she is going to play soccer this spring, as will Hayden.   They are both excited and so am I!  We ended our outting at a BBQ restaurant near our house.  It was okay, but not as good as Gary's brisket.  The fried pickles were delicious though!  They had a side dish I'd never had before called fried corn.  They seasoned a cob of corn and lightly fried it.  We all loved it and I can't wait to try to dulpicate it here at home.  We had a funday Sunday indeed!

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Gary is 41

We had a great day celebrating daddy!

I made homemade enchiladas and we played dodge ball in the basement.  

It was a fun day!

Monday, January 19, 2015

homework homework and more homework

this is what most afternoons look like when the kids get home from school

we pop popcorn and eat snacks and DO HOMEWORK

Daisy waits for the popcorn to fall onto the floor

it is homework for me as much as it is for them

i keep my laptop handy so i can google stuff

i really have to google stuff

homework is hard for me and for them

we are into fractions and inertia in fourth grade

we are working on math facts and nouns, verbs and adjectives in first grade

thankfully we have come up with a great routine

we found a way to stay organized and that makes a big difference while settling in to do homework after school

not having a pencil or paper or the weekly classroom newsletter makes for a chaotic homework event

no one has time for cranky unorganized homework time

the kids are already tired after a long day at school so being organized pays off for our family

I am thankful I get to be home with the kids while they do homework

it isn't always fun, but we make the best of it!

Saturday, January 17, 2015

weekend with friends

We are happy to have friends here for the weekend. 

 They are our second visitors since moving to GA! 

We found a fun new Mexican restaurant and they came to sing Happy Birthday to our friend Jarred.  It isn't even his birthday.  We couldn't stop laughing!!!  They must have gotten the wrong table, but it was good for a few laughs and a delicious dessert! 

We got a babysitter for the first time and had an adult only night out.  We went to several different places and had a fun time exploring our new area here in Georgia.  Gary and I are so happy to have so many fun restaurants nearby to show our friends!